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How To Handle The Nay Sayers
It seems to be the norm rather than the occasional. Yes When we ever we get that positive mental attitude, set goals and plan our steps to success that we begin to bring the knockers, Dream stealers, cold water expects or whatever you want to call them out of the closet. Each of us has a good many that seem to think they know us better than we do, they seem to know what is good or bad for us, and you can bet your life they make sure others think the same way about us, even to the extent of discrediting us. However are we going to let there negative influence get to us, if we are to be successful we had better not, in fact we should try to stay away from their negative input as much as we can. We all are new to this for a start and don't quite understand why they do this, but the fact remains they do. I feel they do this so they can justify their own short comings. I call them dream stealers, because that's just what they do, they undermine our self confidence and when they succeed in doing that, then the negative influence gets in to our minds and causes doubts and fears. Do you know what is equally soul destroying. When the person doing the knocking (dream stealing) often do not even know us very well. I hope with this session to help you handle these negative people once and for all. During my quest for the things in life that I have already
succeeded in obtaining, I have faced many of them, BUT for me at least I was able to see what they were up too long before it became a problem for me, I just stamped them out like a naked flame. Thus destroying their power over my thoughts and actions. However let me add I like you are not immune to their attacks, I am always on the look out for them where ever I go and whoever I speak with. Just the other day, a very good close friend of mine was about to knock a project of mine, until he heard all the facts. You know the sad thing about all this, they are often convinced that they are helping you not make a bad mistake, for some reason they seem to assume they are
god and must talk you out of this foolishness, often without knowing anything about what you are doing. instead of concentrating on there own lives. You know one of the differences between positive and
negative thinkers that I have observed. The negative people are always without fail trying to tear your belief and your positive thinking down to their level, while on the other hand you have to positive person often feeling pity for them and trying to talk to them. But sadly a good percentage of them will not be influenced, which is of course their right, just as it our right not to be swayed by them. I have a good way of looking at this whole thing of the negative and the positive. Imagine if you will two tracks in front of you, these are tracks that will lead you through life. We are standing at the crossroads if you
like, trying to make a decision which track to take. Ok the left track looks a very easy track to take, no brambles or thorns over the path, while the track on the right has brambles and all manner of obstruction in the way. At first I think everyone of us takes the left track because of how it looks at the start, its easy going and not hard work. The track on the right looks too hard and uninviting to even attempt. However after a few years
down the left track the going gets a little harder, we never seem to have enough in life, never really getting anywhere, not even sure where we are going, then we realize that the right hand track although harder for a start is the path of the positive thinker, being positive the track broadens out and you would have found the going a lot easier than what you are experiencing on the negative track. The brambles at the start of the positive track of course are the knockers and dream stealers, with a bit of determination you learn to weed these
negative people out of your garden. Wouldn't it have been
better to select the right track for a start, But human beings being what they are will always take the path of least resistance. But once we swap over tracks there is no need in the world to ever go back to the negative way again, you see the knockers will give up in time if left, they decide for themselves that they have others things to do and will leave you alone, but of course still getting there little dig in now and again. As I said earlier, I believe they become knockers to cover up their own inadequacies, often they will have a very poor self- image of themselves, although they will try to hide this trait. They do not want anybody to succeed in life, because they know they will never be a great success at anything they undertake. The very best way to overcome this continual put downs is to not associate with negative people. Ok I am not say axe your long time friends and in a lot of case your relatives completely, But do cut the time down that you spend in there presence. Seek out the company of positive people, Like minded people, then there will not be any negative talk around you, it is said that you are what you think about all day, Ralph waldo Emerson said it like this “ as a man thinks so is he.” Well I have another one to add to that adage. WE often become like those we live with, or associate with. So to me this make perfect sense to surround ourselves with a shield of positive thinking
people, in stead of having crumbling walls that will not stand the test of time and are easily swayed by what people say or do..
I have a wonderful friend, lets call him Mike, Mike is a very hard worker, but like a lot of other people does not have a lot to show for the amount of effort he puts in, in the course of doing his job. But like so many others he spends a lot of his waking moments dreaming about things, new ideas, a better way to do this or that. A lot of his idea are very sound as well, But he listens to his peers, what happens, yes he gets cold water poured on them every time, some never even make past the first day, I remember he had a great idea for a small kitchen device that would peel potatoes, he had it all worked out how it would run, even without the use of electricity, it was a great idea for those camping or for one or two people living on there own. The project was talked about everyday for about
a week. Once he let people know what he was planning the
knockers really got down on him, they in fact talked him
completely out of the project and it was finally laid to rest.
However about 3 months later it was he saw his very project advertised in one of those pieces of junk mail that we all get plenty of, Someone had a very similar idea, but unlike Mike did not listen to their peers and did not associate with the negative thinker and went on to manufacture it. . This is a lesson I too learnt from bitter defeat, and how my listening to the knockers cost me a great deal of money. When I came back from Australia in 1983 I brought an idea with me, I have always wanted to be an editor of my own magazine or newspaper. I came home with the idea of having my own magazine. I went to see a printer that I new, to see what was involved in getting it started. Well He was not a very positive man and he in a few minutes had decided that the idea would cost far too much money and that as far as he was concerned was not interested in putting a demonstration copy together. I like a fool decided that he most likely knew what he was talking about. I shelved the idea, but never gave it up
completely, however I did leave it too long to bring back to life, and someone else beat me to it, we now know the publication as The Buy Sell and Exchange. I decided at that moment to never listen to any of my peers again unless they could back up the findings with concrete evidence of why they believe what they do. Don't ever let this happen to you, it was a very costly lesson I learned, but it did give me the resolve to never listen to the knockers again. So if you have knockers in your life threatening to undermine your positive thinking you know
what to do. Stop associating with them and start to seek out positive people what have you got to lose. You may suffer a little ridicule, but that will never hurt you and will never stand in your way on the road to success.
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